I located a real dominant and asked him to, um, enlighten me. It was an assignment for The Stir.
Spoke with him about the life of a dominant and his thoughts on Fifty Shades of Grey.
Here’s one of the many questions I posed to him:
There have been some complaints from the BDSM world that Christian Grey misrepresents the true role of a dominant. What are your thoughts?
I don’t think he misrepresented being a dominant. It’s just that most dominants are more passionate about their dominance and would not settle for a partner who seemed as tentative about submitting, especially in a city like Seattle where eager submissives abound. For someone who claims his “tastes are very singular,” he certainly sells himself short — and that’s a rare trait for a dominant.