Listen Live Today: How To Bring Erotic Play Into Your Love Life

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APRIL 5, 2014: You can hear me today at 3 pm Pacific Time. “Embracing Your Fantasies: How To Bring Erotic Play Into Your Love Life” is the expert panel and seminar I did with Reid Mihalko & Dr. Tammy Nelson.

I spoke about the erotic romance revolution and how books like Fifty Shades of Grey and other hot reads can enhance your appetite for sensual play and spice up your love life. All the experts in this workshop gave ideas on how to bring more play and eroticism into your life.

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So excited to be part of The Art of Love Relationship Series, that started April 1 and kicked off 9 days of free online seminars and expert panels about love, sex, and romance.

Here’s Some Information on ‘Embracing Your Fantasies:

One of the greatest myths for couples is the pervasive belief that if you work on your relationship, the sex will take care of itself. Actually, the opposite is often true! Discover how investing time and energy into your sex life can make the relationship itself so much stronger.

You’ll also learn:

  • The #1 thing couples should establish to achieve more orgasms
  • How to ask your partner for something new (without making him feel like he’s failed)
  • The #1 reason people are sometimes hesitant to share their fantasies (judgment isn’t it!)
  • How to handle an erotica attempt “gone bad” in a way that brings you closer
  • The ultimate secret to changing your sex life — right away!
  • About the Pros on the Panel:

    Reid Mihalko
    Sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor and knowledge. He has appeared in media such as Our America With Lisa Ling on the Oprah Winfrey Network, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, and The Washington Post.

    Charlotte Rose
    Charlotte Rose is a sex and relationships journalist and columnist. As a journalist and author, she has been covering love, sexuality, romance, and relationships for more than 20 years. She is a former editor at Playgirl Magazine and is an author in the erotic romance genre.

    Dr. Tammy Nelson
    Dr. Tammy Nelson is a sex and relationship expert, an international speaker, an author and a licensed psychotherapist with almost three decades of experience working with individuals and couples. She is the author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy. Dr Tammy works everyday to create connected couples to move the world toward global relational change.

    Here’s the Structure of the Program and What to Do:

    Sign-up Here.

    The Art of Love Relationship Series will kick off with a LIVE call featuring a very special surprise guest on Tuesday, April 1st at 5:30 PM Pacific / 8:30 PM Eastern.

    Then for eight consecutive days after the LIVE kick-off call, starting Wednesday, April 2nd through Wednesday, April 9th, we’ll be releasing at least four audio seminars daily at 12 PM Pacific / 3 PM Eastern. These seminars will be available for 24 hours starting at 12 PM Pacific / 3 PM Eastern each day, so you’ll have easy access to all the material regardless of your time zone.

    Each day of the event, we’ll send you an email with a link to a webpage that contains all the information you’ll need to participate, including a link to that day’s seminar presentations.

    This is an online event you’ll attend virtually using your own computer and an online audio player. And there’s no need to download software. We’ll provide everything you need to access each seminar for free.

    If You Can’t Participate in all of the Sessions or would rather purchase MP3s to listen to in your car or at home on your own schedule, there is a special offer for purchasing this workshop and others in the series.

    Unlock the Door To a More Satisfying Love Life Now. Sign up for Free!

    Why The Elevator Kiss In ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ Is So Memorable

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    By A. C. Rose

    I did a term paper on Fifty Shades of Grey for my “Theories of Love and Romance” class. Fans of the book will enjoy this excerpt about the elevator scene and why it was so powerful.

    In fairy tales, the kiss is the thing that can awakens the sleeping princess or turns the frog or beast back into a prince. Ana wanted that! But in Fifty Shades of Grey it was a refused kiss that first fueled the flames of Ana Steele’s intrigue and desire.

    Christian invited Ana for coffee, and on the way back to his hotel she is nearly run over by a speeding cyclist. Christian catches her from falling. “It all happened so fast—one minute I’m falling, and the next I’m in his arms and he’s holding me tightly… He’s staring into my eyes, and I hold his anxious, burning gaze for a moment or maybe it’s forever … but eventually, my attention is drawn to his beautiful mouth. And for the first time in my 21 years, I want to be kissed. I want to feel his mouth on mine.” (p. 48)

    They are both deeply drawn and moved by this moment, but Christian, knowing her innocence and his own darkness, refuses to kiss her.

    “Anastasia, you should steer clear of me. I’m not the man for you,” he whispers. She leaves the situation fearing she’s misread his interest and he leaves even more desirous of her.

    When they finally do kiss, it is in an uncontainable eruption of passion and it is the action that fully launches the erotic adventure between Christian and Ana—and the reader. It, of course, occurs at the Heathman Hotel, before the characters have had a sexual experience, and before Ana has signed the NDA (Non-disclosure agreement) that Christian insisted must be in place before their relationship could begin.

    Since paperwork and agreements were a huge part of book one in the trilogy, this scene showed the sheer force of their attraction and illustrates so many of the erotic cues that got the heroine, and the reader, so fully engaged in the story. This passage has become legendary among fans.

    “We walk in silence down the corridor toward the elevator. As we wait I peek up at him through my lashes, and he looks out of the corner of his eyes down at me. I smile, and his lips twitch.
    The elevator arrives, and we step in. We’re alone. Suddenly, for some reason, possibly our proximity in such enclosed space, the atmosphere between us changes, charged with an electric, exhilarating anticipation. My breathing alters as my heart races. His head turns fractionally toward me, his eyes darkest slate. I bite my lip.”

    “Oh, fuck the paperwork,” he growls. He lunges at me, pushing me against the wall of the elevator. Before I know it, he’s got both of my hands in a viselike grip above my head, and he’s pinning me to the wall using his hips. Holy sh-t. His other hand grabs my hair and yanks down, bringing my face, up and his lips are on me. It’s not painful. I moan into his mouth, giving his tongue an opening. He takes full advantage, his tongue expertly exploring my mouth. I have never been kissed like this. My tongue tentatively strokes his and joins his in a slow, erotic dance that is all about touch and sensation, all bump and grind. He brings his hand up to grasp my chin and holds me in place. I’m helpless, my hands pinned, my face held, and his hips restraining me. His erection against my belly. Oh my… He wants me. Christian Grey, Greek God, wants me, and I want him here, here, now, in the elevator.” (P. 77-78)

    When the elevator stops and the kiss abruptly ended, they walk out to the lobby: “I struggle to keep up with him because my wits have been thoroughly and royally scattered all over the floors and walls of elevator three in the Heathman Hotel.” Ana goes off to work still reeling from the experience. “The memory of our kiss this morning comes back to haunt me. I have thought of nothing else all day… to say I was distracted would be the understatement of the year.” (P. 87)

    Understanding the chemistry of a kiss can help explain the desire and sexual awakening Ana felt, as well as understanding why she felt fragmented afterwards, and distracted, because the kiss ended suddenly.

    In The Science of Kissing, Sheril Kirshenbaum says that a lot goes on in the body before a kiss, and a tremendous amount occurs once the lips touch.

    “During a passionate kiss, our blood vessels dilate and receive more oxygen than normal to the brain. Our breathing becomes irregular and deepen; our cheeks flush, our pulse quickens, and our pupils dilate, which may be one reason so many of us closes our eyes.”

    “Perhaps most important of all, when we kiss, all five of our senses are busy transmitting messages to the brain. Billions of little nerve connections are at work, firing away and distributing signals around our bodies. Eventually, these signals reach what is called the somatosensory cortex: the region of the brain that processes feelings of touch, temperature, pain, and more. Here they are interpreted, resulting in thought such as: ‘Did he just have onions?’ or ‘where is that hand wondering.'”

    Ana was pretty taken with where his hands wandered and this kiss set the stage for the passion that would ensue. “A kiss is more than a kiss,” writes Judith Horstman in The Scientific American Book on Love, Sex, and the Brain. “It is an intimate exchange of scents, tastes, textures, secrets, and emotions. A touch of the lips triggers a cascade of neural messages and chemicals that transmit tactile sensations and sensual excitement, feelings of closeness, motivation, and even euphoria.”

    Resources:

    Horstman, J. (2012). The Scientific American Book of Love, Sex, and the Brain (1st ed.). San Francisco, California: Jossey-Bass.

    James, E. L. (2012). Fifty Shades of Grey: Book One of the Fifty Shades Trilogy. (1st ed.). New York, New York: Vintage.

    Kirshenbaum, S. (2011). The Science of Kissing (1st ed.). New York, New York: Grand Central Publishing.

    Artwork of the elevator scene by Ruffles and Restraints.

    Article excerpted from: Attraction, Desire, and Falling in Love As Experienced by Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey In Fifty Shades of Grey by A. Charlotte Rose.

    Embracing Your Fantasies: How To Bring Erotic Play Into Your Love Life

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    So excited to be part of The Art of Love Relationship Series, starting on Tuesday, April 1st. It features 9 days of free online seminars and expert panels about love, sex, and romance. Yay!

    “Embracing Your Fantasies: How To Bring Erotic Play Into Your Love Life” is the expert panel and seminar I did with Reid Mihalko & Dr. Tammy Nelson.

    I spoke about the erotic romance revolution and how books like Fifty Shades of Grey and other hot reads can enhance your appetite for sensual play and spice up your love life.

    Here’s Some Information on ‘Embracing Your Fantasies’:

    One of the greatest myths for couples is the pervasive belief that if you work on your relationship, the sex will take care of itself. Actually, the opposite is often true! Discover how investing time and energy into your sex life can make the relationship itself so much stronger.

    You’ll also learn:

  • The #1 thing couples should establish to achieve more orgasms
  • How to ask your partner for something new (without making him feel like he’s failed)
  • The #1 reason people are sometimes hesitant to share their fantasies (judgment isn’t it!)
  • How to handle an erotica attempt “gone bad” in a way that brings you closer
  • The ultimate secret to changing your sex life — right away!
  • About the Pros on the Panel:

    Reid Mihalko
    Sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor and knowledge. He has appeared in media such as Our America With Lisa Ling on the Oprah Winfrey Network, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, and The Washington Post.

    Charlotte Rose
    Charlotte Rose is a sex and relationships journalist and columnist. As a journalist and author, she has been covering love, sexuality, romance, and relationships for more than 20 years. She is a former editor at Playgirl Magazine and is an author in the erotic romance genre.

    Dr. Tammy Nelson
    Dr. Tammy Nelson is a sex and relationship expert, an international speaker, an author and a licensed psychotherapist with almost three decades of experience working with individuals and couples. She is the author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy. Dr Tammy works everyday to create connected couples to move the world toward global relational change.

    Here’s the Structure of the Program and What to Do:

    Sign-up Here.

    The Art of Love Relationship Series will kick off with a LIVE call featuring a very special surprise guest on Tuesday, April 1st at 5:30 PM Pacific / 8:30 PM Eastern.

    Then for eight consecutive days after the LIVE kick-off call, starting Wednesday, April 2nd through Wednesday, April 9th, we’ll be releasing at least four audio seminars daily at 12 PM Pacific / 3 PM Eastern. These seminars will be available for 24 hours starting at 12 PM Pacific / 3 PM Eastern each day, so you’ll have easy access to all the material regardless of your time zone.

    Each day of the event, we’ll send you an email with a link to a webpage that contains all the information you’ll need to participate, including a link to that day’s seminar presentations.

    This is an online event you’ll attend virtually using your own computer and an online audio player. And there’s no need to download software. We’ll provide everything you need to access each seminar for free.

    If You Can’t Participate in all of the Sessions or would rather purchase MP3s to listen to in your car or at home on your own schedule, there is a special offer for purchasing this workshop and others in the series.

    Unlock the Door To a More Satisfying Love Life Now. Sign up for Free!

    9 Famous Quotes About Soul Mates

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    By A. C. Rose

    Do you believe in soul mates or do you think they only exist in romance novels?

    Here are nine strong voices from literature, the arts, and history sharing their views on soul mates.

    Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.
    -Emily Brontë

    In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.
    -Maya Angelou

    He felt now that he was not simply close to her, but that he did not know where he ended and she began.
    -Leo Tolstoy

    Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.
    -Bruce Lee

    A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise.
    -Richard Bach

    We recognize a soul mate by the supreme level of comfort and security we feel with that person. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t issues that remain to be ironed out. Rather, it means we know intuitively that we can resolve issues with our soul mate without losing his or her love and respect.
    -Linda Brady

    People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
    -Elizabeth Gilbert

    A soulmate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace.
    -Thomas Moore

    The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind I was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.
    -Rumi

    How would you describe a soul mate?

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    6 Tips For Creating Hot Romance At Home

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    By A. C. Rose

    There are simple elements to tantric sexuality you can use anytime to bring a little hot romance and intimacy into your home life. Tantra teacher and author Charles Muir suggests these ideas for couples:

    1. Eye contact. When you look deeply into someone’s eyes you connect with them intimately and immediately. That technique can help anyone develop immediate rapport in almost any situation, and is especially helpful to connect that way with the one you love (or the one you want to be loving).

    2. Ten minute connects. At least once a day, couples should share a hug, touch, embrace or a roll on the bed for ten short minutes. This will help enhance intimacy in relationships and keep couples connected.

    3. Takes turns. Partners can switch roles regularly so that initiating sensuality in a relationship is a shared experience. This way, no one has all responsibility, and each partner has a change to give, receive and experiment with what they want.

    4. Experiment. Learn what really feels good and pleases your partner by trying different sensual strokes, caresses and techniques.

    5. Kiss often. Use your lips to let your partner know how much you care. Alternate styles of softness, speed, pressure and playfulness.

    6. Harmonize moods and energies. Lying down together quietly and breathing in unison is one way for couples to get on the same wave length.

    Have fun trying these out. Sigh.

    Click here to discover more about Tantric Sex and G Spot Orgasms.

    Tantric Sex and G-Spot Orgasms

    Stephanie Kerns

    By A. C. Rose

    Erotic romance books may inspire the urge to merge, but ever feel that your actual love life does not quite measured up to the rockets and rainbows, fireworks and shooting stars, of romantic fantasies? You are not alone!

    Kinky sex aside, there is another kind of loving that can increase your connection to your honey and your orgasmic pleasure in real life. It’s called “tantric sex.”

    The basic premise of the ancient art of tantric sexuality is that couples who practice tantra together share a deeper ability to communicate, a spiritual connection, and an extraordinary expression of erotic love. And here’s the fun part: Tantra is devoted to honoring the female. Although both partners share in loving exploration of sexual pleasures, pleasure for women is one of the primary aims of this kind of sexual play.

    Tantric Sex for modern women and men was brought into the twentieth century in The Art of Conscious Loving Seminars taught by Charles Muir and his ex-wife Caroline Muir. Charles is still teaching around the world.

    So What Exactly is Tantric Sex?
    The word tantra, in Sanskrit, means “expansion.” Relics of tantric rituals date back nearly five millennium. Hindu practitioners of tantric yoga practiced and taught sexual play and sexual union early on in life, yet sex was just one of 65 arts. The other 64 included traditions such as singing, writing and drawing, tattooing, making beds and spreading out carpets and cushions for reclining, and the study of sentences difficult to pronounce.

    They also had unusual names for sex organs, which are still used today. For instance, a “lingam” means penis and “yoni” is vagina. And tantric lovers don’t use the word penetrate, rather, they enter. “Permission’ is also a key word and concept.

    Seek Your G-Spot and Ye Shall Find
    The G spot has long been heralded as the elusive female love spot that truly can send you to new heights of passion. But it’s not a modern day discovery — the ancient teaching of tantric love and sex have been aware of this female pleasure spot for milleniums. They call it the “Sacred Spot.”

    For women, one of the first hurdle to jump is not just finding their G-spot, but believing it actually exists! A fair percentage of women and physicians will still say does not exist — but it does, trust me! Others just have a hard time feeling it. To help women access the treasure of pleasure and healing available in that area of the body, Muir teaches sacred spot massage.

    It is believed that the sacred spot functions in the genitals similarly to the way the subconscious mind functions in the head — it is the keeper of all your sexual records, your pleasure, your pain, your grief. Memories of old broken hearts, broken hymens, sexual abuse, surgery and health issues, and poor sexual experiences are stored in the spongy area that rest right behind the pubic bone. The sacred spot—which is literally the size of a pea—is located in the upper wall of the vagina. When stimulated, in conjunction or separately from the clitoris, it arouses the female and she is capable of multiple orgasms and that mysterious, most coveted, controversial female ejaculation—known as “amrita” or “divine nectar.”

    Graduating to G Spot Orgasms
    Sexual desire and response evolve with time, as you learn more about what you like, and your partner, if you have a steady one, figures out more ways to please you. Discovering tantra, or any new practice, is about changing, growing and being exposed to new things. It doesn’t mean what you did before was bad — it’s learning a new skill that will bring pleasure to both you and your sweetheart. To master G-spot orgasms you have to give yourself time to learn and practice.

    A G-spot orgasm has some of the same qualities of a clitoral orgasm — the building of excitement, the spreading of tingly feelings, the sense of urgency — yet it grows above and beyond anything previously experienced and expected. Not only does the explosion of pleasure feel like its shooting up toward your throat and moving sideways into the reproductive organs, it also is felt in the thighs and breasts. Most of all, it gives women a great sense of opening up and becoming more expansive!

    Click to discover 6 Tantric Tips to Help Create Hot Romance at Home.