Deborah Wilde Chats About ‘The Unlikeable Demon Hunter’

Interview by A.C. Rose

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A global wanderer, hopeless romantic, and total cynic with a broken edit button, Deborah Wilde writes adult urban fantasy romance to satisfy her craving for smexy love stories and tales of chicks who kick ass. Her debut novel The Unlikeable Demon Hunter is described as Bridesmaids meets Buffy. She is all about the happily-ever-after, with a huge dose of hilarity along the way.  Her latest book is The Unlikeable Demon Hunter. She describes it as “Bridesmaids meets Buffy with a dash of the seven deadly sins.”
We chatted with Deborah about her new book, her appreciation of strong women and smexy (smart + sexy) men, and the truth about Prime Minister Justin Trudeau.

Your heroine is a strong, kick ass woman. Did your inspiration for Nava come from anyone you know? Or anyone we know?

Nava is me when I turn off my edit button. She’s snarky, self-defensive, and has carefully cultivated her hot mess status. This is a girl seriously in denial about the emotional baggage she’s carrying around from a couple of major life upsets. We share a love of tap dancing, smexy men, and craving our own happily-ever-after, which I have. Yay!

When I created Nava, I really wanted to play with what being an “unlikeable” female meant because I believe that even fictional women are held to a different standard than fictional men, especially around sexuality. And I also brought a lot of my issues around the sexism inherent in the Jewish religion (mine) to it. So yeah, Nava and her story are very personal to me in different ways.

What makes you fall in love with a hero when you are writing?

Well, I like them alpha and cocky, though issue laden, but they have to totally respect the woman and not get chauvinist. I’m not a fan of the guy being a douchebag. Also, they need to be funny. Funny is super important. As is knowing their way around a woman’s body.

So with my current hero, Rohan, he fights Nava for control in every aspect of their relationship, but he only does so because he knows she can stand toe-to-toe with him. He also has her back so completely and, because of his belief in her, he pushes her to grow as a person in a way that no one else does. He’s a California boy of East Indian/Jewish heritage who was a former mega rock star, and he loves his mother. *insert awwww*

Tell us a little bit about your newest book.

The Unlikeable Demon Hunter is the first book in my new urban fantasy series. It’s the age-old story of what happens when a foul-mouthed, romance-impaired heroine with no edit button and a predilection for hot sex is faced with her worst nightmare–a purpose. I describe it as Bridesmaids meets Buffy with a dash of the seven deadly sins.

Can you share the titles and reading order of your new series?

Book 1: The Unlikeable Demon Hunter

1.5: Slay (a short story)

2: The Unlikeable Demon Hunter: Sting

2.5: Crush (a short story)

3: The Unlikeable Demon Hunter: Need

And then 3 other planned books in the series so far.
What is your favorite genre to read?

Romance, fantasy, sci-fi-mystery, some lit fic, though less than I used to read. A good story is a good story so I don’t discriminate but there is a ton of romance or romance cross-genre that I read.
Where does the magic happen? Do you write in a home office or on the road, or both?

Mostly I write in a home office, though if I travel I’ll take my iPad and get up early to write or write on a plane. When I’m possessed and deep into the story, I don’t care where I write. Just don’t make me stop.
Why do you think romances are good for readers?

Because love is good for readers and the journey of falling in love is so much fun.
Since you hail from Canada have you ever seen the prime minister up close? Is he as cute as he looks?

I haven’t though I have friends who have and they tell me he’s extremely skinny when you meet him face to face. Sorry if that’s disillusioning anyone.

Thank you so much for letting me chat with you!

The age-old story of what happens when a foul-mouthed, romance-impaired heroine with no edit button and a predilection for hot sex is faced with her worst nightmare–a purpose.

Ari Katz is intelligent, driven, and will make an excellent demon hunter once initiated into the Brotherhood of David. However, this book is about his twin Nava: a smart-ass, self-cultivated hot mess, who is thrilled her brother is stuck with all the chosen one crap.

When Nava half-drunkenly interrupts Ari’s induction ceremony, she expects to be chastised. What she doesn’t expect is to take her brother’s place among the–until now–all-male demon hunters. Even worse? Her infuriating leader is former rock star Rohan Mitra.

Too bad Rohan’s exactly what Nava’s always wanted: the perfect bad boy fling with no strings attached, because he may also be the one to bring down her carefully erected emotional shields. That’s as dangerous as all the evil fiends vying for the bragging rights of killing the only female ever chosen for Demon Club.

Odds of survival: eh.
Odds of having a very good time with Rohan before she bites it: much better.

Find out more about author Deborah Wilde at her website.

Find her on TWITTER at @wildeauthor.

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STAY AFTER CLASS by A.C. Rose

Amanda Slade has a major crush on her sexy art professor and wants his help with an important extracurricular activity: Project VirgEnd.

After waiting more than twenty-one years to find the right person, she’s sure he’s the one. But she needs to move things along quickly. The semester is ending and her deadline is approaching.

Professor Jem Nichols is a rising star in New York’s art world and a candidate for tenure. He has a prestigious art exhibition to prepare for and gallery owners breathing down his neck. Falling for his beautiful student is a bad idea. And touching her … it could be his undoing. As much as he tries to ignore his feelings, he can’t say goodbye.

So he asks her to STAY AFTER CLASS

 

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19 Healthy Ways to Chase Away the Blues

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By A.C. Rose

Feeling bummed out, disappointed, and worried about the future? Overwhelmed by social media that is filled with fear and anger? Although we are all entitled to our feelings and opinions, it is important to pull away from negativity and focus on life’s pleasures.

Sometimes the best path to healing is small acts that bring back peace, rejuvenation, and a refreshed attitude.

Here are 19 simple things that you can do in five minutes or less to restore a sense of hope.

1. Take a dance break. Turn on your favorite music and dance. Shake the stress out of your body.

2. Jump in the shower. Refreshing water can help melt away worries and wake up your mind.

3. Go for a walk around the block. Breathe in fresh air and enjoy the changing pace as you move through different blocks, neighborhoods, or parks.

4. Make a happy list. If you feel low, lift your spirits by writing a list of the things that make you happy, and take a moment to remember why.

5. Search for inspirational quotes. Words of wisdom can do wonders. Go on the Internet to find quotes on happiness, motivation, and possibility.

6. Put yourself on the beach. Watch a film clip or video — or look at a photo — that transports you there. Or go there if you can.

7. View a snippet from a favorite movie. Don’t have time to watch a whole film? Find many of your favorite scenes on the web for quick viewing.

8. Listen to music. Play a piece of music that enlivens you and wakes up your system.

9. Use scents. Aromatherapy can relax and uplift people, but a favorite perfume or essential oil can too. Surround yourself with smells that make you feel good.

10. Call a friend. A quick chat with a bestie can help put things in perspective.

11.  Sip your morning brew in quiet. Get up early to take a brief break for tea or coffee as you greet the day before everyone else in the house does.

12. Throw stuff out. Grab something (or more than one thing) you’ve been meaning to ditch, toss in a garbage bag, and get it out of the house. You may feel a lightness of being.

13. Make someone’s day. A short call to an elderly loved one or someone less fortunate can help you forget your own troubles.

14. Meditate briefly. Five minutes of quiet can do a lot of good. Just focus on your breathing and relax.

15. Enjoy a work of art. Whether it’s in your home or something you spot online, get lost in the beauty of an image you adore.

16. Enjoy a waterfall. If you can’t sit by a waterfall, find a video online and let the sight and sound of water calm you.

17. Smile. You cannot be upset when you smile. Try smiling even when you are feeling bad.

18. Laugh out loud. Sometimes all you need is a few minutes of something that makes you crack up to chase a blue mood away.

19. Have an orgasm. Anyway you choose!

 

The Womanizer: My New Plastic, Fantastic Lover

By A.C. Rose

OMG, I got a new lover — The Womanizer by epi24.

This is is BEST sex toy ever. It is lightweight and quiet, and creates the feel of multiple tongue strokes with a unique sucking motion and makes you orgasm within two or three minutes (or sooner, for some).

There is no wear and tear on the hands, fingers, or the body. Instant, intense orgasm is yours. Seriously LOVE this toy. It is actually the only one I own!

Recommend you keep it handy when reading hot books. Or anytime you need a quicky.  But not a bad thing to use in the boudoir with your honey when his/her mouth or hands need a little time out. Just beware: Your lover may get jealous of the superpowers contained in The Womanizer. It’s that close to the feel of a human and that good!

I always say, a man lights up like a match and a woman heats up like an oven. Sex research has shown us time and again that a man can orgasm in two or three minutes (or less) and a women takes at least 14-28 minutes, and likely more.

The Womanizer turns the orgasm stats in a woman’s favor. You do not even need any foreplay or fantasy for it to work. It just does it’s thing!

The toy is very smooth and comfortable to hold in your hand. It is also elegant-looking, and comes in pretty colors, with a protective and nice-looking carrying case.

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Here are some details from the makers of The Womanizer:

The indirect clitoral stimulator uses PleasureAir Technology to deliver an entirely new type of stimulation that has women going from zero to 60, safely, and often multiple times.

It’s comparable to receiving oral sex from a skilled partner. At its lowest intensity, it feels like gentle kisses against the clitoris. Add a little more power and the sensation gets stronger.

There are 9 Available Styles: Black/Leopard, Pink/Leopard, Blue/Croc, Pink/Croc, Black/Tattoo, Red/Roses, Pink/Pink Swarovski Crystals, Pink/White Swarovski Crystals, Black/Leopard Print Swarovski Crystals

Key Features:

– PleasureAir touchless stimulation produces fast, often multiple orgasms

– 5 adjustable levels of intensity

– Exchangeable easy to clean silicon stimulation head

– USB Rechargeable lithium ion battery

– Zipper Travel Case

*Based on a sampling size of 100 women, 50% orgasm in 60 seconds or less, 80% orgasm between 2-3 minutes, and three-fourths experienced multiple orgasms.

(I heard it was invented and tested by a hubby and wife team who worked together to perfect it. They did a good job!)

My final thoughts:

Full disclosure: The Womanizer folks provided the the product so I could test-drive it. I had never heard of anything like it so I was curious to see how it worked. I truly love it. And recommend it.

Make sure you use a little lubricant because the “pleasure air” can make things a little dry without it. Still a good feeling all around.

As with anything else, you can ask your doctor if this is the right item for you–if your dare. Also, make sure you read the instruction booklet that comes with The Womanizer and keep it clean per instructions.

It’s a pricier orgasm aid than your finger or some of the other items on the market, but worth it.

One of the things I love about it is if you position it correctly just over the clitoris, it does the job without having to move your hands, or rub, or work too hard. You don’t have to work at all for your orgasms, in fact.

They come in lots of colors and styles, from Leopard to Black Tattoo (below). Get yours here:

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16 Inspiring Quotes About Spring

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“The first blooms of spring always make my heart sing.” –S. Brown

“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” — Hal Borland

“Never yet was a springtime, when the buds forgot to bloom.”— Margaret Elizabeth Sangster

“It is spring again. The earth is like a child that knows poems by heart.”– Rainer Maria Rilke

“I glanced out the window at the signs of spring. The sky was almost blue, the trees were almost budding, the sun was almost bright.” – Millard Kaufman, screenwriter and novelist
“The beautiful spring and when Nature resumes her loveliness, the human soul is apt to revive also.” —Harriet Ann Jacobs

“Science has never drummed up quite as effective a tranquilizing agent as a sunny spring day.”–W. Earl Hall

“With the coming of spring, I am calm again.” –Gustav Mahler

“The earth laughs in flowers.” –e.e. cummings

 “Spring is when life’s alive in everything.”Christina Rossetti

“Spring is nature’s way of saying, ‘Let’s party’”  –Robin Williams

“Behold, my friends, the spring is come: the earth has gladly received the embraces of the sun, and we shall soon see the results of their love!”– Sitting Bull, Lakota tribal chief

“April hath put a spirit of youth in everything. “ —William Shakespeare

“Despite the forecast, live like it’s spring.” –Lily Pulitzer

“That is one good thing about this world…there are always sure to be more springs.” L.M. Montgomery

‘Tis like the birthday of the world,
When earth was born in bloom;
The light is made of many dyes,
The air is all perfume:
There’s crimson buds, and white and blue,
The very rainbow showers
Have turned to blossoms where they fell,
And sown the earth with flowers.

—Thomas Hood, English humorist and poet

 

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I Heart Turkish Actor Kıvanç Tatlıtuğ

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AROUSAL features gorgeous European billionaire Nicolai Petre. He melts panties with just one glance. He charms you with his hand kisses. He takes you over with his sexual power. He doesn’t like to take no for an answer.

If we were doing a movie, Turkish actor Kıvanç Tatlıtuğ, specifically in the first two episodes of the TV series Kurt Seyit ve Sura, would be my choice to play Nicolai. I cannot understand Turkish, but he speaks with his eyes, his body, and his charm. And he’s 33, same age as Nicolai. Moreover, the way he falls so deeply in love, so quickly, and shows affection for his beloved, Sura, is so like Nicolai and Allison. Their first glances across a crowded room … wow.

SEE HIM IN THIS VIDEO AND FALL IN LOVE!

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Lear more about this versatile, super hot actor on imbd.com.

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A Real Christian Grey Talks About BDSM and Fifty Shades

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By A.C. Rose

As fans get ready for a peek into the Red Room of Pain with the release of the film adaption of Fifty Shade Darker, seems like a good time for a little sneak peek into the life of a real dominant. I located such a man in San Francisco and asked him to, um, enlighten me.

Danarama, as he is known in BDSM circles, is not a billionaire who looks like Jamie Dornan, but he is an experienced Master who has lived the BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Sadomasochism) lifestyle for over 25 years and now teaches kinky sex techniques in instructional videos. Part of his mission is to show people how to act out their favorite parts of Fifty Shades of Grey via a collection of instructional videos called 50 Skills of Grey.

A former VP of Marketing for small companies, Danorama went from working in a vanilla corporate world to teaching about kink and pleasure. His rope skills originated in his rock climbing days and grew over 12 years as part of the rope bondage instruction duo Two Knotty Boys. These days he considers himself a BDSM generalist — instructing on everything from the importance of a woman’s g-spot (and how to find it!) to how to learn Fifty Shades of Grey impact play — which may include a riding crop, a flogger, a belt, and a spanking.

I interviewed Danarama for CafeMom about the life of a dominant and his thoughts on Fifty Shades of Grey when the first movie came out.

What exactly is a male dominant?
A male dominant — or the female equivalent, a dominatrix — is someone who takes the “top” role in a consensual power exchange relationship or play session, usually between two persons where one is dominant and the other submissive or “bottom,” or one is sadistic (enjoys inflicting pain) while the other masochistic (enjoys receiving pain). At the upper end of this dynamic, one is the Master and the other enjoys serving as a slave.

How does one decide to become a Dom, anyway?
People discover their desire for this type of interaction and decide on their role through any number of ways. Many in the BDSM lifestyle can point to a seminal moment in their lives when they realized that kinky or dominant/submissive concepts appealed to them. Whether it was a scene in a movie they saw, or while playing role-based or physical games, or dreams and fantasies, or even through the suggestion of their lover, there is usually a moment or series of moments that the person found distinctly arousing. It may take them years to explore those feelings and seek more, but once the genie is out of the bottle, many find their wishes come true if they find a compatible partner in the complementary role.

So, did you actually read Fifty Shades of Grey?
Yes. I’ve read the novel Fifty Shades of Grey … I wanted to compare its fiction to the reality of BDSM, educate its readers about the techniques depicted, and correct any misconceptions or inaccuracies the book puts forth. In fact, Kink University created a 14-part video series that specifically explains these skills and concepts.

We’ve heard a lot about ‘vanilla sex’ as compared to kinky sex, do the twains ever meet for you? Do you only enjoy BDSM or do you splash in a little vanilla romance from time to time?
BDSM is simply part of the entire spectrum of lifestyle and romance in my life. That’s how it is for most people. Sure, I like a good, hard, kinky sex session — but making sweet, tender love with my partner is equally awesome. That’s the nice thing about BDSM. It only adds to your available repertoire of sensuality. You don’t have to give anything up — even vanilla sex in the missionary position and the lights off, if that’s what gets you both off.

Maybe you can enlighten us on some of the sex play in the book, such as blindfolding, spanking, handcuffing, getting tied up, using a riding crop, sex toys, and of course, silver balls. Are those items you have or would use with a submissive?
These are all pretty basic tools of the trade, so yes, I have used all of these — sometimes in the same session. You can see how these very tools and toys are used in actual BDSM encounters by watching our new how-to tutorials on 50 Skills of Grey. The wonderful thing about these items is they add a whole new dynamic spectrum to sensuality. The more of these tools you can enjoyably use in an encounter, the more diverse your passion can be. That’s one of the nice things about BDSM. It gives couples more to do. It makes things less boring because there’s always something else to share. And if you or your partner winds up not liking one tool, toy, or game, there are so many other things to try. BDSM takes the ceiling off of passion.

There have been some complaints from the BDSM world that Christian Grey misrepresents the true role of a dominant. What are your thoughts?
I don’t think he misrepresented being a dominant. It’s just that most dominants are more passionate about their dominance and would not settle for a partner who seemed as tentative about submitting, especially in a city like Seattle where eager submissives abound. For someone who claims his “tastes are very singular,” he certainly sells himself short — and that’s a rare trait for a dominant.

In your world, what Fifty Shades-inspired kink are women and couples seeking to learn?
That’s as widely varied as the women themselves. In my experience, most of the women who are drawn to the submissive role in BDSM are very strong, intelligent individuals who control a lot in their lives. They are career women, mothers, health care workers, even teachers. What they get from a submissive BDSM dynamic is the release — or the challenge — of relinquishing control to another. Couples should always be looking for ways to keep passion and sex fresh, and Fifty Shades of Grey makes a good starting point for exploring ways kink can add to their romantic repertoire.

One of the ways Christian kept Ana on the edge was she never knew what he would do next. How much is the creation of anticipation part of a real Dom’s experience?
That depends on the encounter. Sometimes a couple agrees to do a specific type of scene, be it a rope suspension, needle play, or spanking. In these cases, surprises are not always safe or even welcome. However, building anticipation can be a wonderful part of a free-form scene, where improvisation — within the submissive’s limits — creates a very dynamic experience. This is especially easy to do using sensory deprivation techniques, such as blindfolds.

For the unenlightened, what does it feel like to dominate someone?
Dominants experience different rewards or feelings from engaging in BDSM. For sadists, some find a cathartic and physical release of stress by taking out aggression upon a consenting partners who enjoy experiencing pain for their own catharsis or other reasons. Good BDSM is always symbiotic like that. Other dominants are more service-oriented, playing their role or plying their craft as a form of expression, approval, or even for the fulfillment of their submissive. Still others enjoy the power they feel at being able to control another’s sensations, actions, lifestyle choices, or sexuality — in a way that’s desired by their submissive. That consensual quid pro quo is what makes BDSM different from abuse. It’s honestly enjoyed by both.

Have you ever had a contract with a sub? How do you make agreements?
Yes, I have had such contracts, but usually a contract indicates ownership, such as the terms between a Master and slave. In typical arrangements which are less formal, couples negotiate on the activities, toys, and their limits. Negotiating can be as simple as a brief conversation before a scene, or as thorough as completing a long negotiation form where each topic, item, and limit is spelled out.

Does sex play in your role as a Dom usually culminate in a penetrative sexual experience? Or oral sex? Or an orgasm? In general, for your or your partner, is that a final goal?
In BDSM, sexual contact, like any aspect of the play, is negotiated and consented to beforehand and even during the encounter. When I do BDSM with my lovers, it usually involves sex. However, when I am doing BDSM activities such as rope bondage or impact play, in a more public setting or with a new partner, this almost never involves any type of sexual contact.

Learn more: Catch Danarama in action any given day at KinkUniversity.com and, also, 50SkillsofGrey.com.

Written by A.C. Rose for The Stir. A.C. Rose is a sex and love columnist and author of erotic romances. Her latest book is AROUSAL.

 

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